Why Chemistry Is Not Always Enough!
The Psychology Behind Love That Actually Lasts
Grab a copy of this free PDF guide! It's for people who are looking for more than attraction alone
When Love Feels So Right, Yet Still Seems To Go So Wrong
You can care deeply about someone. You can feel a strong undeniable attraction for someone. You can even believe you have found that mythical “the one”.
And still find yourself confused, disconnected, or repeating the same painful patterns. If that sounds familiar, you are certainly not broken and you are definitely not failing at love. What's happening is you're simply relying on chemistry to do a job it was never designed to do.
Created by Colin C. McKay, author of My Psychopathic Romance & Healthy Lasting Love™, this powerful resource shares helpful insights and tools to support you to start making positive changes today.
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Why chemistry can feel powerful but still lead to unstable relationships
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The difference between intensity and emotional safety and why some relationships feel exhausting
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How attraction is shaped by familiarity rather than compatibility
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What actually allows love to last over time, and how to make more conscious relationship choices
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Develop insight and understanding as to what your love actually needs to evolve and grow
It's time to stop repeating… and start rewriting.
Let this be your first step toward
Healthy Lasting Love™
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This guide is for you:
If you keep feeling drawn to the same types of relationships.
If Attraction feels strong, but safety feels uncertain
If You want depth, not drama
If You're tired of repeating old patterns
If You want to understand love rather than just hope for it
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or reflecting on past experiences, this guide will meet you where you are.
Real Love - Real Tools - Real Results
What's the personal impact and what does it all mean? When a relationship has no where to go, what do you do? Is the only path backwards or can you see your way forwards?
It stops when you realise that it starts and ends with you. The partners you attract are directly aligned to what we believe you deserve. Changing that belief Changes your outcomes!
If you find yourself in a love that has dysfunctional elements to it. Then fixing it, will not break it, if it is indeed meant to be. The key factor is whether or not both people are taking part!
Healthy Lasting Love™ Live 2 Day Relationship Coaching Event
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Learn how your attraction strategies are formed from early childhood.
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Discover what self limiting beliefs and negative emotional associations are keeping you stuck.
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What to avoid! Psychopaths, Narcissists and the emotionally unavailable.
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Fine tuning your red flag radar and the reasons you may have downplayed them in the past.
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Understand emotional associations how they impact your choices and how to let them go!
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How the Healthy Lasting Love™ forgiveness model works to create foundational inner healing
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Learn the 3 most important things to ensure that you never again create or maintain a problem.
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Establishing boundaries and how to commit to them and effectively communicate them.
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What's your love language and deep love strategy, and what's the difference that makes the difference.
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How to create your future love and relationship roadmap by design. No longer accepting what's simply been given by default.
Training Course Content
This live 2 day training has a limit of 20 participants.
7th & 8th March 2026
Barnett Hill Hotel, Guildford, Surrey
Email your name and best contact number to
[email protected]
To arrange a free 30 minute coaching call to help interested participants identify their specific goals, challenges, and emotional patterns.
"Working with Colin McKay has been nothing short of transformational. His friendly, humorous, and deeply engaging approach to training and personal development is absolutely infectious. Colin has supported me with such enthusiasm and authenticity throughout my personal development journey. His ability to create a safe, uplifting space for growth is truly special, and his insights have helped me unlock new levels of clarity and confidence. If you’re considering working with him, I can wholeheartedly say: you’ll be better for it."
Del Walsh
"Before coaching with Colin, I was stuck in a cycle of unhealthy habits that weren't serving me and I knew I had to do something about them, the question was what? After working with Colin, I learned skills and methods to communicate my needs effectively instead of avoiding conflict. I'm no longer afraid to speak my mind, and it's led to a more confident and authentic version of myself that my partner, friends and colleagues genuinely respects."
Lizzi Whaley
"I have trained with Colin in NLP and Hypnosis and when I heard he had released his book, I bought it straight away and read it over an intense and slightly confronting 2 days. I've also already recommended it to others. Very informative, reassuring and gave me valuable insights which I hadn't realised that I very much needed at the time. I have set new boundaries and am now using his practical tools every day. I highly, highly recommend Colin's coaching, his training and now also the valuable insights that he shares in both of his books on healthy relationship dynamics."
Sarah Beckwith
Discover The Psychology Behind A Healthy Lasting Love. Now Live On Amazon!
Healthy Lasting Love™
Why do some relationships feel safe, alive, passionate and deeply connected, while others slowly become tense, distant, and painful, even when undeniable love exists between you?
Most of us were never taught how healthy love actually works. We learned how to fall in love. We learned how to cope when it hurts. But very few of us learned how to create a relationship that can truly last.
Healthy Lasting Love is a grounded, compassionate, and psychologically informed guide to understanding love beyond romance, chemistry, and hope alone. It explores what sustains connection over time, what quietly erodes it, and how couples can move from confusion and conflict into clarity, safety, and growth.
Blending modern psychology, neuroscience, emotional awareness, real-world relationship dynamics and coaching experience. This book offers a clear framework for understanding why relationships struggle and how they can be fully supported to truly thrive and last a lifetime.
Inside this book, you'll discover:
Why chemistry alone is never enough and how you can be best served by choosing your partners consciously
How attachment patterns shape how we perceive connection, closeness, conflict, and emotional safety
Why communication breaks down under stress and how skilled repair is need to ensure trust can be restored
How betrayal, anger, and emotional volatility impact relationships and how healing is possible
How fear, projection, and emotional wounds quietly influence how we show up in love and how we are willing to receive love
Why desire can fade over time and how passion and intimacy can be sustained without losing safety
How to recognise assumptions, mind reading, and emotional distortion in everyday communication
And many more practical tools to clarify values, understand attraction patterns, and deep love strategies that will create real lasting change
This book is for:
Individuals who want to understand themselves better in love as well as couples who value their relationship but feel stuck or disconnected. It's for those that are recovering from relationship pain, and are determined to choose differently next time. And ultimately anyone seriously seeking a relationship that feels emotionally safe, honest, and alive.
Get It Today On Amazon!
Whether you're single, partnered, or rebuilding after difficulty, Healthy Lasting Love offers insight, clarity, and practical real world guidance that you can start to apply to your relationships today.
Check Out Our Guide To Escaping Toxic Dysfunctional Love. Now Live On Amazon!
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Whether you're trying to leave a painful relationship, heal from one, or avoid repeating the same pattern again, this book will show you how. This is not just about love. It’s about coming home to yourself. If you’re ready to stop surviving destructive love and start thriving through loving connection, this book could easily be your next step.
My Psychopathic Romance
If you're finding yourself stuck in a toxic and dysfunctional love cycle, feeling that you're being manipulated by the very person that should care for you the most. You're self esteem and self worth at an all time low having been eroded away, inch by inch, as you slowly loose sight of who you really are?
Or do you never seem to get it right, every relationship you create seems to end up the very same way. As you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners or narcissists, even although you should by now know better?
Then this book may well hold the key you're looking for to help you to evolve your way out of this dysfunctional loop!
My Psychopathic Romance is a powerful, no-nonsense guide to understanding and breaking free from destructive relationship patterns and building the tools for a healthy lasting love.
Written by a professional coach and advanced NLP trainer Colin C. McKay, this book combines deep insight with proven coaching techniques to help you to recognise hidden psychological patterns that pull you unconsciously like a magnet, towards toxic individuals.
Learn How To:
* Decode narcissistic sociopathic and psychopathic behaviour
* Rebuild your self-worth after emotional trauma or abuse
* Reclaim your nervous system and your personal power
* Learn how to trust yourself again and how to love without fear
* Create a clear, intentional blueprint for real, lasting love for your future
A WORD FROM THE AUTHOR & PERSONAL GROWTH COACH
HAVING WORKED WITH
Colin McKay
Founder, Trainer & Coach
Colin is a warm, dynamic trainer with a passion for the power of language and human potential. A master of NLP, Conversational Hypnosis, and Time Line Therapy™, he brings over 25 years of real-world leadership experience to all of his training and every coaching session. Known for his practical, engaging style, Colin blends deep psychological insight with powerful coaching insights and expertise. Having trained with world leading experts across the globe, he’s now a masterful trainer dedicated to creating lasting transformation. Through Life Training Systems Ltd, he’s developed unique models like The LTS - Q.U.A.L.I.T.Y™ Coaching Model, Advanced Linguistic Influencing™, Hypno-Therapeutic Coaching™ and Source Pattern Reset™ that are all designed to empower real world, measurable change.
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